Month: September 2021

September 29, 2021

Put The Past Behind You Helpful Tips For Overcoming A Difficult Childhood

Put the Past Behind You – Helpful Tips for Overcoming a Difficult Childhood

A lot of us had it tough growing up. Sometimes it was because the family didn’t have a lot of money and we couldn’t have or do the same things that others kids did. Maybe you were bullied at school. Worst of all, perhaps you suffered abuse at the hands of your parents or caregivers.

Fortunately, having a difficult childhood isn’t a lifetime sentence to a terrible adult life. Even if you grew up suffering abuse, lived with parents who were addicted to alcohol or drugs, or suffered through a traumatic experience as a child, you can go on to become a happy and healthy adult.

Use these tips to put a difficult childhood behind you:

  1. Avoid blaming yourself. Many times, survivors of abuse blame themselves for what happened. This self-blame can carry on into adulthood.
    • People who have suffered abuse are often more mistrusting and sometimes even hostile to others. This can negatively impact your relationships. Ask others to be patient with you as you learn to trust them.
    • If you were abused or neglected as a child, know that it wasn’t your fault. When you come to this realization, you will start to see yourself in a better light.
    • You are a good person, who is deserving of a happy life. Start believing that.
  1. Learn to say no. If you had a difficult childhood, it’s likely that you weren’t allowed to say “no” without serious repercussions. As an adult, it’s okay to set some boundaries and expect others to respect them.
  1. Let the difficult times in your past make you stronger. If you experienced hardship, you can go one of two ways: either live in the past and dwell on the difficult times, or decide to learn from the experiences and move on in a new, positive direction.
  • There’s a saying, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” Although it can be challenging to use a difficult experience as a source of strength, it’s a healthy thing to do.
  1. Use positive affirmations. Everyone has their own internal dialogue. Make yours a positive one. Focus on your strengths rather than your weaknesses. Say encouraging things and give yourself a pep talk whenever you need to.
  1. Surround yourself with positive people. Studies have shown that abuse sufferers often end up in abusive relationships. It’s up to you to break the pattern.
  • You want the important people in your life to be supportive and encouraging. Therefore, it’s best to eliminate those who are a negative influence from your life.
  1. Seek the help of a therapist. Overcoming traumatic childhood experiences can be quite difficult. A professional therapist can help you navigate your way through some of the issues and challenges you might be facing.

If you had a difficult childhood, these tips can lead you down a more positive path during adulthood. However, these suggestions may only be the first step. You may need to see a mental health professional to learn some other strategies for coping with the past. Isn’t it time to put it behind you once and for all?

September 27, 2021

Put the Past Behind You – Helpful Tips for Overcoming a Difficult Childhood

A lot of us had it tough growing up. Sometimes it was because the family didn’t have a lot of money and we couldn’t have or do the same things that others kids did. Maybe you were bullied at school. Worst of all, perhaps you suffered abuse at the hands of your parents or caregivers.

Fortunately, having a difficult childhood isn’t a lifetime sentence to a terrible adult life. Even if you grew up suffering abuse, lived with parents who were addicted to alcohol or drugs, or suffered through a traumatic experience as a child, you can go on to become a happy and healthy adult.

Use these tips to put a difficult childhood behind you:

1. Avoid blaming yourself. Many times, survivors of abuse blame themselves for what happened. This self-blame can carry on into adulthood.

* People who have suffered abuse are often more mistrusting and sometimes even hostile to others. This can negatively impact your relationships. Ask others to be patient with you as you learn to trust them.

* If you were abused or neglected as a child, know that it wasn’t your fault. When you come to this realization, you will start to see yourself in a better light.

* You are a good person, who is deserving of a happy life. Start believing that.

2. Learn to say no. If you had a difficult childhood, it’s likely that you weren’t allowed to say “no” without serious repercussions. As an adult, it’s okay to set some boundaries and expect others to respect them.

3. Let the difficult times in your past make you stronger. If you experienced hardship, you can go one of two ways: either live in the past and dwell on the difficult times, or decide to learn from the experiences and move on in a new, positive direction.

* There’s a saying, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” Although it can be challenging to use a difficult experience as a source of strength, it’s a healthy thing to do.

4. Use positive affirmations. Everyone has their own internal dialogue. Make yours a positive one. Focus on your strengths rather than your weaknesses. Say encouraging things and give yourself a pep talk whenever you need to.

5. Surround yourself with positive people. Studies have shown that abuse sufferers often end up in abusive relationships. It’s up to you to break the pattern.

* You want the important people in your life to be supportive and encouraging. Therefore, it’s best to eliminate those who are a negative influence from your life.

6. Seek the help of a therapist. Overcoming traumatic childhood experiences can be quite difficult. A professional therapist can help you navigate your way through some of the issues and challenges you might be facing.

If you had a difficult childhood, these tips can lead you down a more positive path during adulthood. However, these suggestions may only be the first step. You may need to see a mental health professional to learn some other strategies for coping with the past. Isn’t it time to put it behind you once and for all?

September 25, 2021

Never Be Alone Find And Join A Community Of Like Minded People

Never be Alone: Find and Join a Community of Like-Minded People

One difference between most of North America and the rest of the world is our propensity for isolation and independence. Most of us have less interest in our friends and family than people do in other countries.

For example, we have nursing homes and retirement communities. People in other countries are shocked that we don’t want our aging grandparents, parents, aunts, and uncles to live with us for the rest of their lives.

We’re still social creatures and require a community of people in order to thrive. It’s also nice to have help if you break your leg or need a lift to the grocery store. Having someone to talk to would be a good thing, too.

Consider these ideas to develop your personal community:

  1. Define your interests. What do you like to do? If your favorite activity is playing poker and analyzing football games, a group that meets for needlepoint might not appeal to you.
    • Think about the things you enjoy and make a list. There’s bound to be something in there you can work with.
  2. Consider religious and spiritual groups. Check out a few churches in your area. Try to stay relatively close to home or you might find the inconvenience is too much to overcome consistently. Keep looking until you find a place where you feel comfortable and welcome.
  3. Consider groups related to physical activity. Do you like to run? Play golf? Bowl? Compete in powerlifting? There are plenty of groups you can join. You can do something you already love to do and make a few friends in the process.
  4. Look at the people you work with. You might not want to hang out with the same people you work with all day. On the other hand, you already know whom you like and don’t like. Maybe you could get a group together once a week for an activity.
  5. Take advantage of the internet to find people. There are many websites that cater to finding like-minded people for meeting and socializing. Meetup.com is one of the most well-known. There are many others. See what you can find and fill out a profile.
  6. Consider online communities. If you’re extremely shy, have an unusual schedule, or eclectic tastes, you might have more luck online. If your interests are hairless cats and howling at the moon, you can probably find your people online. Of course, there’s plenty to be found if you’re mainstream.
    • Just be careful. It’s important to have some face-to-face interaction in your life. Avoid having your entire social life online. There’s no true substitute for sharing the same physical space with someone.
  7. Be bold and be patient. The process of finding and bonding with new people can be stressful. You’ll have to use a little courage and be patient. It might take some time to find the right group.
  8. Build your social skills. Avoid using a lack of social skills as an excuse to wait to find some new people. Just make an effort to build on your social skills in the process of finding your community. Practice builds expertise.

There are people out there just like you that would love to see you and interact with you on a regular basis. Resist the urge to be a loner 24/7. There are a lot of good things happening that you’re missing. No one is meant to face the world alone.

Create or join a community of like-minded people. You’ll be glad you did.

September 24, 2021

Never be Alone: Find and Join a Community of Like-Minded People

One difference between most of North America and the rest of the world is our propensity for isolation and independence. Most of us have less interest in our friends and family than people do in other countries.

For example, we have nursing homes and retirement communities. People in other countries are shocked that we don’t want our aging grandparents, parents, aunts, and uncles to live with us for the rest of their lives.

We’re still social creatures and require a community of people in order to thrive. It’s also nice to have help if you break your leg or need a lift to the grocery store. Having someone to talk to would be a good thing, too.

Consider these ideas to develop your personal community:

1. Define your interests. What do you like to do? If your favorite activity is playing poker and analyzing football games, a group that meets for needlepoint might not appeal to you.

◦ Think about the things you enjoy and make a list. There’s bound to be something in there you can work with.

2. Consider religious and spiritual groups. Check out a few churches in your area. Try to stay relatively close to home or you might find the inconvenience is too much to overcome consistently. Keep looking until you find a place where you feel comfortable and welcome.

3. Consider groups related to physical activity. Do you like to run? Play golf? Bowl? Compete in powerlifting? There are plenty of groups you can join. You can do something you already love to do and make a few friends in the process.

4. Look at the people you work with. You might not want to hang out with the same people you work with all day. On the other hand, you already know whom you like and don’t like. Maybe you could get a group together once a week for an activity.

5. Take advantage of the internet to find people. There are many websites that cater to finding like-minded people for meeting and socializing. Meetup.com is one of the most well-known. There are many others. See what you can find and fill out a profile.

6. Consider online communities. If you’re extremely shy, have an unusual schedule, or eclectic tastes, you might have more luck online. If your interests are hairless cats and howling at the moon, you can probably find your people online. Of course, there’s plenty to be found if you’re mainstream.

◦ Just be careful. It’s important to have some face-to-face interaction in your life. Avoid having your entire social life online. There’s no true substitute for sharing the same physical space with someone.

7. Be bold and be patient. The process of finding and bonding with new people can be stressful. You’ll have to use a little courage and be patient. It might take some time to find the right group.

8. Build your social skills. Avoid using a lack of social skills as an excuse to wait to find some new people. Just make an effort to build on your social skills in the process of finding your community. Practice builds expertise.

There are people out there just like you that would love to see you and interact with you on a regular basis. Resist the urge to be a loner 24/7. There are a lot of good things happening that you’re missing. No one is meant to face the world alone.

Create or join a community of like-minded people. You’ll be glad you did.

September 22, 2021

Discover How You Can Let Go Of Your Inferiority Complex

Discover How You Can Let Go of Your Inferiority Complex

We’re all inferior to others in some fashion. Everyone is different. However, there’s a difference between not having all the talents and skills you wish to possess and holding the belief that you’re fundamentally flawed. How does one develop an inferiority complex? What’s the solution?

Creating an inferiority complex requires a lot of effort. It’s not easy to take a couple of perceived shortcomings and convince yourself that you’re totally incapable and ineffective. But even though it might take effort and energy to develop an inferiority complex, as humans, we’re quite capable of limiting ourselves in this way.

The good news is that you can reverse this process! But how? How do you overcome such an ingrained tendency to put yourself down?

Use these strategies to conquer your inferiority complex and feel your confidence soar:

  1. Avoid generalizations. It might be true that you’re short, fat, or messy. Nevertheless, that hardly suggests that you’re unintelligent or lack a sense of humor. Make a list of your characteristics that make you feel inferior.
  • To whom do you feel inferior? Successful people? Your co-worker, Alice? In what ways is Alice better than you?
  1. Inferiority complexes arise from wanting to be like someone else. You’re unique and you can never be a better “Alice” than Alice is. Avoid trying. You can’t impersonate someone else while being true to yourself.
  • As soon as you try to be someone you’re not, you send yourself the message that you’re not good enough.
  1. Be realistic. It’s common to fall into the trap of believing that one perceived flaw is causing all of your challenges. All or nothing thinking is dangerous. Your life won’t magically improve in every way because you find a girlfriend, lose 20 lbs., or eliminate your bald spot.
  2. Consider what you need to stop feeling inferior. Is overcoming the flaw that concerns you under your control? If you’re over 18, you’re not likely to get any taller. However, you can increase your income or enhance your social skills.
  • Imagine that you have that new characteristic. Does it feel natural? Or do you feel as if you’re pretending to be someone else? Redefine and clarify your vision until you feel comfortable in it.
  1. Have a friend list your best qualities. You don’t have an accurate opinion of yourself, but a good friend could list your strengths. Ask for examples if you don’t believe them. It’s hard to be accurate when judging yourself.
  2. Control your self-talk. The low self-esteem and pessimism that are rampant in an inferiority complex are affected by the words you say to yourself. You can say things that support the belief that you’re inferior, or you can be your own best cheerleader. It’s your choice! Monitor your self-talk and keep it positive.
  • Try saying the opposite to yourself than what you first tend to think: “I can’t do anything right” becomes, “I can do anything I set my mind to.”
  1. Focus on your victories. There are things that you successfully accomplish each day. Many of them are small. Getting to work on time or remembering your friend’s birthday are worthy accomplishments. Get yourself a pat on the back for everything you do well each day. It’s not easy to get through the day successfully. You’re doing better than you think.
  1. Realize that others aren’t focusing on your shortcomings. Inferiority is rooted in the idea that others think little of you. The truth is that most people aren’t thinking about you at all.
  • It’s easy to prove to yourself. Go to the mall and visit several stores. Act in an unusual way (for you) in each store. Limp in one store. Stutter while in another store. You get the idea. Notice that no one reacts.
  • Everyone else is too busy with their own issues to concern themselves with yours. You’re much freer than you realize.

Feeling inferior in some ways is common and might even be accurate. However, you’re not inferior in a way that limits your life unless you allow your imagination to get the best of you.

Focus on your strengths, control your self-talk, and understand that no one is watching. Letting go of your inferiority complex will bring you the joys of newfound confidence and freedom.

September 20, 2021

The Complete Guide To Taking Emotional Care Of Yourself

The Complete Guide to Taking Emotional Care of Yourself

A jam-packed existence is the result of living in the twenty-first century. You feel compelled to be as efficient as possible at work, home, and in your social life. Yet, these same endeavors can also wreak havoc on your emotions.

How can you take care of your mental state as you strive to live your best life?

Use these strategies to ensure your emotional self is well-cared-for:

  1. Acknowledge your feelings each day. Something as simple as asking yourself, “How do I feel today” can go a long way toward emotional self-care.
  • Doing this daily reflection shows you’re aware of your feelings and also indicates you see them as important. Performing a feelings-check ensures you remain in effective control of your emotions.
  • There will be fewer incidents of flying off the handle, making sarcastic remarks, or getting annoyed and showing it.
  • Stay on top of your feelings to enjoy a more fulfilling life.
  1. Speak up for yourself when necessary. When you feel you’ve been wronged or misunderstood, simply state your feelings and what you’d like to see happen.
  • For example, “I think my remark yesterday about not wanting to drive the four of us on the shopping trip wasn’t clear. What I meant to say was my car will only hold one other person, so I’m unable to accommodate 3 riders. Can you drive instead?”
  • When you speak up for yourself, you show yourself that what you think and feel is important enough to be noticed and discussed with those around you.
  1. Stay tuned in to close relationships. One thing to avoid is having relationships filled with angst, disappointment, and anger. You can do this by staying in touch with your partner and others you have close relationships with.
  • If the relationship is important to you, it’s worth your time and effort to know what’s going on emotionally with the other person. Plus, your emotional life will be more satisfying and peaceful when you do.
  1. Have some fun each day. When you smile and enjoy life, the benefits to your emotional life are great. Happiness and levity are good for the soul. Enjoy at least some fun each day.
  • Engage in your favorite hobbies or tell jokes with your partner.
  • Have a chat session with your best friend on the phone.
  • Play cards with your neighbors or invite your buddies over and order out.
  1. Talk out loud about what troubles you. Whenever you have negative, nagging feelings, they can weigh you down emotionally. Try not to get to the point where you begin feeling consistently upset or acting out emotionally with others.
  • Speak to somebody about those challenging feelings. It can be a close friend, your partner, or even a professional if you wish.
  1. Ensure your work is as low-stress as possible. You have a responsibility to yourself to take whatever steps necessary to adjust your work load, due dates, or other challenges to reduce job stress.
  2. Trim negative relationships from your life. Because relationships can be so paramount to your existence, it’s wise to ensure they are each as positive and supportive as possible. It can help to occasionally weed out those who stunt our emotional growth or detract from our emotional health.

You’re life is a blessing. Enjoy it to its fullest by taking excellent care of yourself emotionally as well as physically. Use these ideas to experience the enriched existence you desire.

September 18, 2021

Discover How You Can Let Go of Your Inferiority Complex

We’re all inferior to others in some fashion. Everyone is different. However, there’s a difference between not having all the talents and skills you wish to possess and holding the belief that you’re fundamentally flawed. How does one develop an inferiority complex? What’s the solution?

Creating an inferiority complex requires a lot of effort. It’s not easy to take a couple of perceived shortcomings and convince yourself that you’re totally incapable and ineffective. But even though it might take effort and energy to develop an inferiority complex, as humans, we’re quite capable of limiting ourselves in this way.

The good news is that you can reverse this process! But how? How do you overcome such an ingrained tendency to put yourself down?

Use these strategies to conquer your inferiority complex and feel your confidence soar:

1. Avoid generalizations. It might be true that you’re short, fat, or messy. Nevertheless, that hardly suggests that you’re unintelligent or lack a sense of humor. Make a list of your characteristics that make you feel inferior.

* To whom do you feel inferior? Successful people? Your co-worker, Alice? In what ways is Alice better than you?

2. Inferiority complexes arise from wanting to be like someone else. You’re unique and you can never be a better “Alice” than Alice is. Avoid trying. You can’t impersonate someone else while being true to yourself.

* As soon as you try to be someone you’re not, you send yourself the message that you’re not good enough.

3. Be realistic. It’s common to fall into the trap of believing that one perceived flaw is causing all of your challenges. All or nothing thinking is dangerous. Your life won’t magically improve in every way because you find a girlfriend, lose 20 lbs., or eliminate your bald spot.

4. Consider what you need to stop feeling inferior. Is overcoming the flaw that concerns you under your control? If you’re over 18, you’re not likely to get any taller. However, you can increase your income or enhance your social skills.

* Imagine that you have that new characteristic. Does it feel natural? Or do you feel as if you’re pretending to be someone else? Redefine and clarify your vision until you feel comfortable in it.

5. Have a friend list your best qualities. You don’t have an accurate opinion of yourself, but a good friend could list your strengths. Ask for examples if you don’t believe them. It’s hard to be accurate when judging yourself.

6. Control your self-talk. The low self-esteem and pessimism that are rampant in an inferiority complex are affected by the words you say to yourself. You can say things that support the belief that you’re inferior, or you can be your own best cheerleader. It’s your choice! Monitor your self-talk and keep it positive.

* Try saying the opposite to yourself than what you first tend to think: “I can’t do anything right” becomes, “I can do anything I set my mind to.”

7. Focus on your victories. There are things that you successfully accomplish each day. Many of them are small. Getting to work on time or remembering your friend’s birthday are worthy accomplishments. Get yourself a pat on the back for everything you do well each day. It’s not easy to get through the day successfully. You’re doing better than you think.

8. Realize that others aren’t focusing on your shortcomings. Inferiority is rooted in the idea that others think little of you. The truth is that most people aren’t thinking about you at all.

* It’s easy to prove to yourself. Go to the mall and visit several stores. Act in an unusual way (for you) in each store. Limp in one store. Stutter while in another store. You get the idea. Notice that no one reacts.

* Everyone else is too busy with their own issues to concern themselves with yours. You’re much freer than you realize.

Feeling inferior in some ways is common and might even be accurate. However, you’re not inferior in a way that limits your life unless you allow your imagination to get the best of you.

Focus on your strengths, control your self-talk, and understand that no one is watching. Letting go of your inferiority complex will bring you the joys of newfound confidence and freedom.

September 17, 2021

The Complete Guide to Taking Emotional Care of Yourself

A jam-packed existence is the result of living in the twenty-first century. You feel compelled to be as efficient as possible at work, home, and in your social life. Yet, these same endeavors can also wreak havoc on your emotions.

How can you take care of your mental state as you strive to live your best life?

Use these strategies to ensure your emotional self is well-cared-for:

1. Acknowledge your feelings each day. Something as simple as asking yourself, “How do I feel today” can go a long way toward emotional self-care.

* Doing this daily reflection shows you’re aware of your feelings and also indicates you see them as important. Performing a feelings-check ensures you remain in effective control of your emotions.

* There will be fewer incidents of flying off the handle, making sarcastic remarks, or getting annoyed and showing it.

* Stay on top of your feelings to enjoy a more fulfilling life.

2. Speak up for yourself when necessary. When you feel you’ve been wronged or misunderstood, simply state your feelings and what you’d like to see happen.

* For example, “I think my remark yesterday about not wanting to drive the four of us on the shopping trip wasn’t clear. What I meant to say was my car will only hold one other person, so I’m unable to accommodate 3 riders. Can you drive instead?”

* When you speak up for yourself, you show yourself that what you think and feel is important enough to be noticed and discussed with those around you.

3. Stay tuned in to close relationships. One thing to avoid is having relationships filled with angst, disappointment, and anger. You can do this by staying in touch with your partner and others you have close relationships with.

* If the relationship is important to you, it’s worth your time and effort to know what’s going on emotionally with the other person. Plus, your emotional life will be more satisfying and peaceful when you do.

4. Have some fun each day. When you smile and enjoy life, the benefits to your emotional life are great. Happiness and levity are good for the soul. Enjoy at least some fun each day.

* Engage in your favorite hobbies or tell jokes with your partner.
* Have a chat session with your best friend on the phone.
* Play cards with your neighbors or invite your buddies over and order out.

5. Talk out loud about what troubles you. Whenever you have negative, nagging feelings, they can weigh you down emotionally. Try not to get to the point where you begin feeling consistently upset or acting out emotionally with others.

* Speak to somebody about those challenging feelings. It can be a close friend, your partner, or even a professional if you wish.

6. Ensure your work is as low-stress as possible. You have a responsibility to yourself to take whatever steps necessary to adjust your work load, due dates, or other challenges to reduce job stress.

7. Trim negative relationships from your life. Because relationships can be so paramount to your existence, it’s wise to ensure they are each as positive and supportive as possible. It can help to occasionally weed out those who stunt our emotional growth or detract from our emotional health.

You’re life is a blessing. Enjoy it to its fullest by taking excellent care of yourself emotionally as well as physically. Use these ideas to experience the enriched existence you desire.

September 15, 2021

Creating The Time You Need To Do The Things You Love

Creating the Time You Need to Do the Things You Love

Time is at a premium these days. It’s hard to find someone that complains about having too much time on their hands. Most of us are so busy with work, family, and various obligations, there’s little time left to do the things we’d really like to do!

It’s not easy to find time to pursue your passions, but there’s usually a way if you’re truly serious.

Use these techniques to create the time you require for important pursuits:

  1. Decide what you want to make room for. The best way to motivate yourself to create more free time in your life is to identify what you want to make time for! What are the most important things you’d like to spend more time on? Do you want to learn the violin? Spend more time with your spouse?
    • Figure out how you’d spend that extra time and make sure you have some good reasons. Create a list of reasons that give you an emotional response. Being logical is unlikely to inspire you.
  2. Use your mornings wisely. Most people waste their mornings. They stay in bed as long as possible and barely manage to get to work on time each day. Make the most of your mornings. Go to bed earlier and get up earlier.
    • It’s often easier to do something worthwhile in the morning than in the evening. What are you missing by going to bed earlier? Probably not a lot.
  3. Understand the ways you waste time. We’re quite ingenious at wasting time. Watch yourself for a day and write down all the ways you waste time. When you understand where your time is leaking away, you can start working on solutions.
  4. Make a schedule. A schedule can keep you on track and help to ensure that your time is being spent wisely. A schedule can help to minimize the amount of time you waste. You can also build time into your schedule to do the things you enjoy the most.
  5. Delegate. Create more time for yourself by utilizing the people around you. This can work at work and at home. There’s a good chance that someone in your life has time on their hands. Put your employees, coworkers, children, and partner to work! A little help can free up quite a bit of time.
  6. Prioritize and eliminate. Perhaps you just have too many non-essential things going on in your life. It might be time to cut back on a few of those obligations.
    • Take a look at everything you have to do each day/week/month and think about how much value those things add to your life. You can probably find something to remove from your life.
  7. Multitask. Multitasking sometimes helps. You might make phone calls or do important reading while sitting on an exercise bike. Get your exercise while taking the dog for a walk. Make a few phone calls while you’re waiting in line. You can even work on your tan and mow the grass at the same time!

You can find time if you have a good enough reason! Determine what you want to create time for and make it happen. Delegate, schedule, eliminate, and avoid wasting time. It’s been said that the average life is plenty long enough, provided you don’t waste any time. What are you willing to give up to spend time on the things you love?

September 13, 2021

Creating the Time You Need to Do the Things You Love

Time is at a premium these days. It’s hard to find someone that complains about having too much time on their hands. Most of us are so busy with work, family, and various obligations, there’s little time left to do the things we’d really like to do!

It’s not easy to find time to pursue your passions, but there’s usually a way if you’re truly serious.

Use these techniques to create the time you require for important pursuits:

1. Decide what you want to make room for. The best way to motivate yourself to create more free time in your life is to identify what you want to make time for! What are the most important things you’d like to spend more time on? Do you want to learn the violin? Spend more time with your spouse?

◦ Figure out how you’d spend that extra time and make sure you have some good reasons. Create a list of reasons that give you an emotional response. Being logical is unlikely to inspire you.

2. Use your mornings wisely. Most people waste their mornings. They stay in bed as long as possible and barely manage to get to work on time each day. Make the most of your mornings. Go to bed earlier and get up earlier.

◦ It’s often easier to do something worthwhile in the morning than in the evening. What are you missing by going to bed earlier? Probably not a lot.

3. Understand the ways you waste time. We’re quite ingenious at wasting time. Watch yourself for a day and write down all the ways you waste time. When you understand where your time is leaking away, you can start working on solutions.

4. Make a schedule. A schedule can keep you on track and help to ensure that your time is being spent wisely. A schedule can help to minimize the amount of time you waste. You can also build time into your schedule to do the things you enjoy the most.

5. Delegate. Create more time for yourself by utilizing the people around you. This can work at work and at home. There’s a good chance that someone in your life has time on their hands. Put your employees, coworkers, children, and partner to work! A little help can free up quite a bit of time.

6. Prioritize and eliminate. Perhaps you just have too many non-essential things going on in your life. It might be time to cut back on a few of those obligations.

◦ Take a look at everything you have to do each day/week/month and think about how much value those things add to your life. You can probably find something to remove from your life.

7. Multitask. Multitasking sometimes helps. You might make phone calls or do important reading while sitting on an exercise bike. Get your exercise while taking the dog for a walk. Make a few phone calls while you’re waiting in line. You can even work on your tan and mow the grass at the same time!

You can find time if you have a good enough reason! Determine what you want to create time for and make it happen. Delegate, schedule, eliminate, and avoid wasting time. It’s been said that the average life is plenty long enough, provided you don’t waste any time. What are you willing to give up to spend time on the things you love?